January 26th 2009 (After coming back from Costa Rica & Feeling a tremendous sense of Male Lose) I just came back from burying my dad.
For my own protection and in a blatant attempt to "outwit" God, I have made a list of the ideal and only man that I will ever consider for marriage. Since the odds of him existing is slim to none, I thereby conclude that I will be on my own from here on out.
THE LIST
1. Love God/ have an intimate Relationship with Jesus Christ
2. Blonde Hair & Blue Eyes (I have always loved these traits, but never had them love me back)
3. A GENTLE man
4. Character: Honest, self-confident, patient, trustworthy.
5. Love to Dance (good luck finding that one, Lord; especially at my age)
6. Not threatened by a strong woman
7. Believes that marriage is 2 independent people partnering together; not expecting me to be molded in to the image of him.
8. NEVER jealous of my relationship with Jesus
9. Encourages my spiritual activity
10. Love to travel and have a desire to see the world
11. Physically fit & able to climb mountains
12. Can handle missionary work
13. Financially stable: Manages money well and is wealthy enough to pay for traveling & not expect me to "support" and provide for the family.
14. Not expect me to cook, clean and do all the housework alone.
15. He must be able to manage finances wisely, but not be stingy at all (over tithing & loving to give to anyone when prompted by God to do so)- MUST be a giver
16.Romantic & Passionate
17. Not insisting on his own way, even if his way is better.
18. Positive perspective on life (a CAN DO person - no matter how WILD the challenge)
19. Will fall totally in LOVE with Caleb & adopt him; becoming the best father a boy could have.
20. Will never be jealous of my ministry or my ministering to others.
21. Not jealous AT ALL, but protective of me and his family
22. Would NEVER degrade me
23. Would NEVER physically harm me
24. Hurts when I hurt
25. Will NOT smother me
26. Can understand me & The way I think (that will be a challenge)
27. Trusts me
28. Is not bored with my ideas
29. Does not make fun of my dreams; but rather, wants to see my dreams come true, no matter how crazy or impossible it seems.
30. Will NEVER call me crazy
31. Honors my spiritual experiences (even when they are far out ones)
32. Makes me a better person when I am with him.
33. Points me TOWARDS God, not pull me away.
34. Loves Kids of ALL ages
35. Must love & get along with all my friends.
36. Must honor his own mother,without clinging to her.
37. Be a good writer, communicator
38. Be a strong leader
39. Be emotionally, physically, & spiritually stronger than me (smarter too)
40. Have a strong, healthy network of personal friends
41. FREE from all bondage (no drug, alcohol, or porn addictions)
42. NOT a yeller, but have gentle strength.
43. Love to read
44. Love music (can play an instrument)
45. Someone I can pour all I have in to seeing him succeed, but NOT take advantage of it.
46. Will hold me & Pray for me when I am sick
47. See himself as my partner, not boss
48. Is willing to walk out my past with me, love me despite of it.
49. Will NOT cover his ears when I play my trumpet
50. Does NOT think I exist to make him happy.
51. Sees God as his source for EVERYTHING.
52. The older I get, the more beautiful I will become to him.
I am transferring this list from my handwritten notebook to here. I need to keep it as a reminder to not settle.
~CHER
For my own protection and in a blatant attempt to "outwit" God, I have made a list of the ideal and only man that I will ever consider for marriage. Since the odds of him existing is slim to none, I thereby conclude that I will be on my own from here on out.
THE LIST
1. Love God/ have an intimate Relationship with Jesus Christ
2. Blonde Hair & Blue Eyes (I have always loved these traits, but never had them love me back)
3. A GENTLE man
4. Character: Honest, self-confident, patient, trustworthy.
5. Love to Dance (good luck finding that one, Lord; especially at my age)
6. Not threatened by a strong woman
7. Believes that marriage is 2 independent people partnering together; not expecting me to be molded in to the image of him.
8. NEVER jealous of my relationship with Jesus
9. Encourages my spiritual activity
10. Love to travel and have a desire to see the world
11. Physically fit & able to climb mountains
12. Can handle missionary work
13. Financially stable: Manages money well and is wealthy enough to pay for traveling & not expect me to "support" and provide for the family.
14. Not expect me to cook, clean and do all the housework alone.
15. He must be able to manage finances wisely, but not be stingy at all (over tithing & loving to give to anyone when prompted by God to do so)- MUST be a giver
16.Romantic & Passionate
17. Not insisting on his own way, even if his way is better.
18. Positive perspective on life (a CAN DO person - no matter how WILD the challenge)
19. Will fall totally in LOVE with Caleb & adopt him; becoming the best father a boy could have.
20. Will never be jealous of my ministry or my ministering to others.
21. Not jealous AT ALL, but protective of me and his family
22. Would NEVER degrade me
23. Would NEVER physically harm me
24. Hurts when I hurt
25. Will NOT smother me
26. Can understand me & The way I think (that will be a challenge)
27. Trusts me
28. Is not bored with my ideas
29. Does not make fun of my dreams; but rather, wants to see my dreams come true, no matter how crazy or impossible it seems.
30. Will NEVER call me crazy
31. Honors my spiritual experiences (even when they are far out ones)
32. Makes me a better person when I am with him.
33. Points me TOWARDS God, not pull me away.
34. Loves Kids of ALL ages
35. Must love & get along with all my friends.
36. Must honor his own mother,without clinging to her.
37. Be a good writer, communicator
38. Be a strong leader
39. Be emotionally, physically, & spiritually stronger than me (smarter too)
40. Have a strong, healthy network of personal friends
41. FREE from all bondage (no drug, alcohol, or porn addictions)
42. NOT a yeller, but have gentle strength.
43. Love to read
44. Love music (can play an instrument)
45. Someone I can pour all I have in to seeing him succeed, but NOT take advantage of it.
46. Will hold me & Pray for me when I am sick
47. See himself as my partner, not boss
48. Is willing to walk out my past with me, love me despite of it.
49. Will NOT cover his ears when I play my trumpet
50. Does NOT think I exist to make him happy.
51. Sees God as his source for EVERYTHING.
52. The older I get, the more beautiful I will become to him.
I am transferring this list from my handwritten notebook to here. I need to keep it as a reminder to not settle.
~CHER
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